I have been frequently asked if I know where certain people are. Most of the time, I get pretty annoyed for the following reasons:
1. I’m not everyone’s mommy. I don’t keep track of where people go and what they do and whom they meet. I have better things to do. (Do people nowadays still tell their mommies where they go to like me?)
2. The people that you are looking for are all adults. Do you think they report to me where they go, what they do and whom they meet? They have better things to do.
3. Why don’t you ask that person you’re looking for directly? Just drop him/her a text asking “where are you?” or something.
4. If I know where the person you’re looking for, what does my answer help you in conveying your message to that person?
Let’s talk about point 4.
You are looking for someone. You call that person, she doesn’t pick up. You leave her a text message. Within 30 minutes, she doesn’t reply. You call again, still cannot get that person. Another 30 minutes passed, you call again and still don’t get her on the line. You drop her a brief email asking where she is because you’d like to talk to her. If you have got an auto-reply from her, you probably know where she has been and when she will be back.
Say, you don’t have an auto-reply, there you go ask Jenny “hey do you know where Melody is?“.
If Jenny says: No I don’t know.
The answer doesn’t help, you will still need to keep calling that person and texting her until you get her. Or wait until she returns your call.
If Jenny says: Oh i think she’s in Malaysia now but I’m not sure.
Doesn’t help either. Repeat calling and texting process until you get her or wait till she calls you.
If Jenny says: Ah, she’s in Malaysia but I don’t know when she will be back
Doesn’t help either. You might want to drop her a full email telling her your problem – which is better as at least she can expect what you’re calling her for. (Personally I always prefer having a heads up via email before anyone calls me up)
If Jenny says: Ah, she’s in Malaysia and she will be back next week.
Now you know where she is and her availability. You should drop her a full email telling her your problem – which is better as at least she can expect what you’re calling her for. (Same as the previous scenario)
If Jenny says: Hey she’s with Rhythm.
And you call Rhythm, to speak to Melody. Errr…
If Jenny says: Yea i know. But she’s avoiding you.
Ouch! Plan an ambush maybe?
So, honestly I don’t think I could help you much when you ask if I know where someone is. In short, just keep calling, sending messages, emailing that person until he/she gets back to you. Or just email that person to tell him/her your problem la…
Similarly, don’t ask me if someone is happy. He/she can be happy to me but not to you and vice versa. More importantly, I’m not a happinessometer 😐
No biggie. Have a bloody good weekend ahead!